Today, during a long (so long) bout of homework, I had my favorite trashy tv Netflix playing in the background. They were dealing with the usual stupidly sincere dramas while running around in tiny bathing suits. But then, one of the girls started getting yelled at by her boyfriend for wearing a tiny bathing suit. This escalated as he pushed her down the stairs.
He's been a recurring character in the series this season and I've found myself muttering derisively about him whenever he's been on screen. And it turns out that I've not been enjoying my favorite trashy tv so much when there is a character transitioning from emotional abuser to physical abuser.
See, I've been on the end of emotional abuse in relationships a few times over the years. The first time, the relationship lasted for about two years before I finally escaped. The second time was a while ago and lasted only a few months, but that is still longer than it should have been. I was very grateful for several very wonderful women in my life who pointed out that what I was going through was not o.k. Being screamed at constantly is not ok. Being afraid to be who I am is not o.k. Being afraid for my physical well-being is not o.k. Walking around afraid to say or do something "unacceptable" is, itself, absolutely unacceptable. Contrast this with two people who discuss me and one who fairly recently told me, to my face, that they thought I chosen that relationship just to be dramatic and cause difficulties.
This all came up today as I watched Ms. Bikini Top on tv lie to all her friends about how her arm got broke after being pushed down the stairs. Yes, it's tv. But people don't actively choose to go into abusive relationships. I'm still pissed about the accusation and I hope my trashy tv can get back to the good old days when the bikinis being worried about having enough guys in trunks around before starting a beach bonfire was the big drama of the hour.
An Erinku (written as the ice cream truck goes by):
melting
heat and
homework
don't mix
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