Being Courageous

Today, I was roaming around my mom's new town and re-breaking in my sandals (it's much warmer here than in Colorado). After an hour of roaming, I ducked into a coffee shop since it had been hours since my previous dose of caffeine. While I sat there, two ladies in their 40's sat down next to me and started talking about Lady A's relationship.

Lady A was in a long-term relationship, then started cheating. When her significant other found out, they were devastated and broke up with Lady A. Lady A and B both laughed about how messed up her ex was now and "that's what therapy is for!" At this point, I was pretty disgusted with them, so I downed my coffee and left.

After all my life adventures, here's what I think: if you are cheating on your significant other, you are a coward. If you can't muster up the courage to tell someone who (theoretically) loves/likes/trusts you that you can't/don't/won't have that same level of love/like/trust in return, then break up. Seriously.

Yes, there will probably be tears and sadness, but it's the healthiest and most respectful way to act. If you accidentally fall into cheating, you need to A.) be WAY more aware of your surrounding (seriously? how did that accidentally happen?) and B.) tell your significant other. Now. Yes, it will damage your relationship, but you know what? It's not the "telling" that will hurt the relationship, it's how you acted.  So grow up and take responsibility.

There are so many people damaged by cheating. Instead of damaging folks, it would be so much better if you just ended it. That way, both partners can move on with a clean start. Life is tough and if you are already planning to move on without your partner, then be honest about it. That's what being a grown-up is all about.

Bah. At the very least, I got a tasty caramel latte in. And my feet have been reacquainted my sandals, so we're good to go for another season.

An Erinku:
my pink shirt
sort-of
hides where
I dribbled my coffee on it